Managing ADHD is a lifelong journey, and doing it well is more than just mastering all the tips and tricks you might see on social media.

And why shaming ourselves cannot lead to learning, change, or growth; only self-compassion can do that.

Perhaps uniquely among all other emotions, we can set out to experience gratitude on purpose, which is not only a pleasant sensation but has also been shown to accrue meaningful benefits to physical health, longevity, and mental health.

What I am currently struck by — from my position as both an observer and a participant here in late-stage capitalism — is the contrast between wellness as an ideal and an industry, and wellbeing as a felt experience and a way of living.

At first glance, practicing mindfulness may seem completely incompatible with a diagnosis of ADHD: the practice of paying attention vs. the struggle to pay attention. But this is exactly why it can help: ADHD is a disorder of attention and self-regulation, and mindfulness is training for attention and self-regulation.

By living and working together in a group, our primate and early hominid ancestors were each better protected and enjoyed a greater chance of survival. Alternatively, an individual on their own was doomed. If losing connection to the group means death, then we must be vigilant about safeguarding our belonging. Shame warns us when a threat to our belonging may be near.

Instead of moving through grief in sequential stages and focusing on our difficult feelings at full force, many of us may feel that we are constantly zigzagging between focusing on our loss, building a new life post-loss, and dealing with regular, day-to-day demands. This is the dual process model of grief.

Why we stay stuck in our current patterns, and practical suggestions to interrupt them. Reset your relationship with your phone to one that better serves you.

Much of the time we end up spending on our phones feels unconscious, uncontrolled, even involuntary.

From childhood, we’re taught that our anger is not welcome, But rather than fear anger as a way of losing our connection to others, let’s honor it as a way to reconnect with ourselves.