Little Gems
Growth and healing rarely occur in one grand transformation. Change happens bit by bit. In therapy, each insight and emotional shift moves us along the path toward greater freedom.
While a blog is not therapy, here I offer little gems of practical information and hard-won wisdom that I hope might spark something for you — an insight or emotional shift to move you along your own path.
The Emotions Series: Guilt vs. Remorse
Guilt will have us denying our needs and our inner knowing, but remorse will never lead us astray.
Why ADHD is a Misnomer
Today we have a much better picture of ADHD as a broader challenge with self-regulation, rather than specifically a deficit of attention and/or hyperactivity.
The Emotions Series: How to Sit with a Feeling
If we are not informed and intentional about how we sit with our feelings, we can end up just stewing in them and staying stuck, or ruminating and reinforcing a harmful belief.
Introducing The Emotions Series
Most of us, even those of us with the most loving and well-meaning caregivers and teachers, did not receive an emotional education. We learned to use a fork, to tie our shoes, to read and tell time. To share and to wait our turn. But not about the anger of having to share, or the frustration of waiting, or the embarrassment of being the last to read.
Object-Trace Cells and the Grieving Brain
“If someone close to us dies, then, based on what we know about object-trace cells, our neurons still fire every time we expect our loved one to be in the room. And this neural trace persists until we can learn that our loved one is never going to be in our physical world again.”
Anniversaries of Loss and Trauma: The Body Keeps the Calendar
As the anniversary of a loss or a trauma approaches, it’s often the case that our bodies register the signs before we consciously take note of the calendar.